THE GIFT THAT KEEPS ON GIVING

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                                      Who doesn't LOVE Coffee Conversations with a friend?
                                                      More resolve than with a Shrink!

                                                    Never a DULL moment in This Bed!

Communication. Its what we all hunger to exchange: Talking, Texting, or an Old Fashion Letter.
Women seem to have a natural gift for sharing their thoughts. Gay men also have this unique skill. So why not use a motivational tool to get the conversation flowing with everyone?

There has never been a hot topic of conversation that didn't first originate in the privacy of the Beauty Salon. We all know, "If you can't mull it over with your hairdresser first, surely it won't go over well with anyone else."

A perfect gift to give this year that is sure to keep on giving throughout the year...
  Confessions of a Hairdresser. You will never run out of things to chat about once you have listened in on the conversations that go on in your neighborhood beauty salon!





AUTUMN CELEBRATIONS

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A MEAL SHARED WITH FAMILY AND FRIENDS SUSTAINS YOU IN MORE WAYS THAN ONE.

Life is hectic.
Worries abound.
But Autumn is a special time of the year.
Contemplative fires.
Tummy warming dinners.
 Longer nights to catch up on needed rest.
Make time for family, friends, and great meals.
Share laughter, and lots of stories.
Celebrate Autumn.
Celebrate Life!

SCENTS OF AUTUMN

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 The chill is officially in the air to stay.

Time for the fire and the scents of Autumn.
Pumpkin Soup with whole chunks of pumpkin, squashes, yucca, and chick peas in a roasted garlic, curry, and peanut broth. Yum.

An assortment of sausages: lamb, chicken, and pork for those hungry for a little taste of meat in this vegetarian dinner. Yum.

And what would Autumn be without baked apples?
Cored, stuffed with cinnamon roasted walnuts, and wrapped in a walnut pastry. Yum.

I'd say a little rum spiked hot cider would accompany this Autumn week night dinner perfectly. Wouldn't you?


SEX and LOVE: THE MERGER

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Every man and every woman (unless vowed to celibacy) believes that they are an “Expert" on the subject of sex! Why do you think this is, given that there is so much infidelity, and couple counseling?

As a hairdresser, I have inadvertently counseled women for over 30 years, simply by listening. The story was always the same. And so I am going to share with you, things you may not know. Stories I heard from you!

Sex. What is its purpose? Through much of time until recent years, society taught that it was for procreation, only. How ignorant, when both men and women knew  there was so much more to experience.

Sex is the outward physical manifestation of the inward longing for intimacy. Intimacy is what we humans are looking to experience in relationship to one another.

Unfortunately what the sexual revolution ignited, was sex 'gone wild'. Suddenly everything became sex-y, while we became confused. 

From ancient times, to our present day's sexual exploitation, something has gone very awry in the bedroom. Tribes of Arabs, Africans, and sometimes Indigenous communities, practiced circumcision on women so as to remove any and all pleasure for the woman; leaving her instead to experience only pain through intercourse. Which, by the way, was intended to keep the woman faithful while men went off to hunt, to war, or who knows where. Present day discoveries of child molestation, and the abuse of women, lead us to understand that these abnormal practices inflicted on the innocent, have been around since the beginning of time; and therefore have contributed to the emotional and physical impediments of women and their quest for pleasure with their partner.

It is in the bedroom, so to speak, that trust, tenderness, love, intimacy, and bonding are supposed to take place. Once these important human needs are met, pleasure can then be introduced into the intimacy of the couple, never the other way around!

But if sexual pleasure is all a man or woman are looking to experience, then what has actually been created between the couple is the exploitation of both. Nothing has been nurtured, embraced, or loved. Who could possibly marry the magic of love and sex under these circumstances?

Couples, who look beyond their love bed for pleasure, satisfaction, or validation, really need to look within themselves to better understand why sex is not the fireworks they believed it should be.

There are two very important secrets about women that men rarely know, and therefore never find the key to tap into the sexual power all women have the ability to bring to the relationship:
-       Explicit understanding of the female anatomy
-       The importance of loving a woman who first has embraced/learned to love herself

The sad truth in these two secrets men rarely know, is that the women themselves rarely know it either. Nothing, other than a complete mess, could result from this scenario!

Personal and private exploration is a vital key to understanding ourselves so that we can relay those findings to our partner. Self-love, self-acceptance, self-knowledge, and a healthy self-image is an important foundation between lovers.

If we enter a relationship with the hopes of finding self-validation before we have embraced it ourselves, we are not going to find it. And guess what the end result in the bedroom will be? That’s right. No fireworks!

Just a final word on personal-sexual exploration.

-       Women, if you are finding more personal satisfaction with a vibrator than with your partner, you might wonder why? Unless your man can vibrate himself he is not going to be able to compete with the rhythm you have come to depend on.  Vibrators, used over time, begin to deaden the nerve endings, making it increasingly more difficult to reach orgasm.
-       Men, no woman can possibly move her hand or her hips as fast as you can move your hand. She can’t feel what you are feeling! Try to find ways during your personal exploration that mimic the movement of another human being, not a cocktail shaker! 
-       Personal exploration with the intent to imitate what would be natural when shared between two people, will make private time more advantageous for shared time.

Since women have the more complex anatomy, further exploration of her unseen body parts is suggested. For this reason, I dedicated an entire section of a book I have published that offers exciting insight: Confessions of a Hairdresser

A successful and fun research project with a group of five hairdressers was executed for the sole purpose of analyzing, discovering, and satisfying every woman’s desire for greater satisfaction with her partner.

In the chapters entitled “Something Unknown” individual exercises and their findings were explored, and then discussed with the group. After a period of time, each of the women were able to find their own G-spot and its full potential. These abilities of a woman's anatomy are rarely discussed, even though they are a very real intention of the female body. 

Sex and Love? In today’s world that uses sex to sell nearly everything from cars to toothpaste, it is no wonder why love and intimacy have been left out of the bedroom. But, if the interconnection of both sex and love are what you would like to claim for yourself, you will want to know what these five hairdressers discovered! 

Check out Confessions of a Hairdresser on Amazon.
It was written for you!



YOU SHOULD WRITE A BOOK!

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 You Should Write A Book!
How many times have you heard this exclamation?
What topic would you write it on?

It is often said, to writers, "For whom, and how does your story make a difference?"

It has been noted, more times than I have documented, that a person's personal, long time, and loyal hairdresser can be the most intimate person in our lives.

Why is this?
Perhaps each of you reading this missive will come to the same conclusion that thousands of hairdressers have come to:
  • We pose no threat as the listener
  • We are not there to pass judgement
  • We are not being paid to resolve the issue or help with the solution (as is your shrink)
  • We have become a respite in all the events of your life
  • We hear it firsthand
  • We have become a bosom buddy, and let's face it, those are hard to come by
You pay us to make the most of  your appearance; to help develop your self esteem, and to fashion and mold the most endearing aspect of your ego, your self image.
You solicit us to listen; listen to the woes of your lives.
  • Woes of parental conflict
  • Woes of dating
  • Woes of infidelity
  • Woes of child rearing
  • Woes of health
  • Woes of finances
  • Woes of loss
  • Woes of loneliness
  • Woes too personal to mention here
And yet, you expect that through years of sharing every aspect of who you are, and how your lives have unfolded, that we, your hairdresser, have culminated a mental diary of those woes, and can at best, make some sense of them.

Well, you are correct!
And, for this reason, Confessions of a Hairdresser, a first of its kind, was written as a culmination of one hairdressers mental diary.

Why should that be of interest to you?

Unlike your shrink, or councilor, who spends most of YOUR money asking you, "How does that make you feel?" Your hairdresser engages you, helps you gather and throw all the pieces of the puzzle of your life, (from years of listening and recall) on a table, and visually, (so to speak) make some sense of it.

Psychologists tell us that at times, the best way to resolve issues in our life is to step away from them momentarily, (take a walk, a drive, a change of environment, a vacation, a separation, rehab) and come back to the issues at hand with a refreshed perspective.

This, is why Confessions of a Hairdresser was written. To be that refreshed perspective, as you delve into the issues of others, not so unlike your own, and have the opportunity as an innocent bystander to look, listen, and feel their woes, which will in essence give you a fresh perspective on your own.

Confessions of a Hairdresser was written by one hairdresser, with the resource stories that unfolded to her. But, to broaden the spectrum of anecdotes, the author has closed the final page of her book with an invitation to all hairdressers to submit and share a few stories of their own. (To which a website is ready, willing, and able to take those stories and fashion them into an on going series of published events: www.my-essence.net).

Which brings me back to our initial prompt; "You should write a book"!

Do you have any idea how difficult the media industry, for authors, has become?
It use to be that anyone could write a story, handwritten manuscript, and send it to any number of publishers for consideration.

Well, those days are over here in America!
America, the land of the mighty middle man!
Did you know, that in order to get a story to a publisher, you now have to hire an agent to represent you, and deliver your story for you in hopes that the publisher will find it note worthy?
Did you know that if you pay a small amount to an inexpensive agent verses pay lots to a more high-end agent, that will determine if your little story gets recognition?
Can you imagine the multitude of great stories that have gone by the wayside simply because the author was of simple means?
I tell you, Mozart or Dickens would have remained nameless people!
Did you know that even if a publisher takes the story 'on' for publication, the author still has to do most of the marketing, even though they signed over their copyrights to the publisher?!!!
Did you know that in the past five years, a multitude of writers have gone the 'self-publication' route, and market through Amazon and Google?
Heck, why not? If you have to do most of the marketing anyway, why not maintain the ownership of your work, rather than sell it off for pennies?

THIS, is where you come in. Unless, you don't care if book venues close, and the written word ceases; there is an obligation of all consumers to keep books alive, (digital or paper).

Confessions of a Hairdresser was written to make a difference. It was thoughtfully culminated to dig in and touch some of the most personal issues in your life, and help you glean some answers by looking into the lives and issues of other people; giving you the 'glass house' opportunity to hone your skills at resolving them, so that if or when they arise in your life, you might be better prepared to deal with them.

How can you contribute?
Buy a copy of Confessions of a Hairdresser, on Amazon. Tell a friend. Buy a copy for your hairdresser, and keep the great art of storytelling alive. Who knows, your story could find itself on pages that help resolve issues for someone else.

Just think; your seventeen dollar purchase could propagate a whole new trend!
A book today, a television series tomorrow, (and goodness knows, TV sure could use some new material)!

Thank you for your time and your consideration.




FAIRYTALE LOVE

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In the salon, love stories, and their pursuit, are the most frequented topics of discussion.

From the time a young girl is old enough to understand the story of Cinderella, she begins the dream of her own fairytale romance, long before her first training bra.

But where's a girl to find her prince?

Sometimes a young woman doesn't have to go further than her neighborhood, to find herself married to her high school sweetheart. Such love and devotion; to grow old with the man you once knew as a pimply faced teenager.

Others land both their first grownup job, and husband, right out of college: a time of independence, ambition, and promise. But for the rest of the world, the search might get redirected, and take awhile.

The wedding of Kate and William will represent one of those milestones in a woman's life, promising that there are no limitations or obstacles to deter the quest for a fairytale love.

So how should we approach this quest for the Holy Grail?
Like all things vastly important to us: Prepare!

If you have ever asked a friend, what she is looking for in her fairytale man, then you might not be too surprised as to why she hasn't found him yet. Her list can sometimes far outweigh her own balancing qualities. Or, her refined qualities may far tip the scales of the intimidated eligible dudes out there. So what's a girl to do?

Well, the only insightful advice that makes any sense, is that of which we see time and time again in the salon on wedding days, when a flurry of nerves, excitement, and a glow of inner beauty that shines through the eyes of each star struck bride, as she entrusts her magical day to the wand of her hairdresser; and that is to never give up the dream, nor negate the possibility that it could be staring you right in the face, while you are gazing out into never-never land.

And that goes for you gents who are on a quest for your princess as well!






The Most Amazing Thing: Birth Right

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The late 1970's.
Washington DC.

Georgetown University and George Washington University had become the hub of foreign students. Young rich boys from Saudi Arabia, the Emirates, and Asia. Big Mercedes, Rolex watches, and lots of gold adorned the streets of the nation's capitol.

I was young, impressionable, and learned how to crash embassy parties in search of my prince. One afternoon, while sipping coffee at a bistro in Georgetown with some of my new-found friends, a new face joined our group. I felt a sudden flush of heat emerge from my cheeks. Something about his countenance was very different from the others: regal, eloquent, and conservative.

Our eyes met and held their gaze as he was introduced to those sitting around our table. I couldn't help but wonder for a moment, if this is what love at first sight felt like. Before I could account for the passing of the afternoon, the beautiful Asian man and I were having dinner together: alone.

Three months passed and it became clear, we had fallen deeply in love. Our customs were different, our families were different, but it didn't matter, we were blissfully in love and lived for every moment we could be together, until I received a phone call from an old friend. A call that would change my life forever. My friend, Miu, was from Japan and had apparently heard that I was dating a man from her country. With urgency in her voice, she invited me to lunch. It was over a hot cup of barley tea and a cold piece of sashimi that I learned the truth about my lover.

His family was among the most prominent and wealthy families in Japan. He was the first-born son of a family dynasty of many first born sons. He would take his father's place one day, and his parents would choose his education, his life, and of course, his wife.

With tears of disbelief, I confronted my Taro. I do not remember who spilled the darkest cloud of tears, but the proclamations of Miu were all true, and worse. My Taro would return to his country in one year, and take his rightful seat in the family dynasty. I, of course, would dissolve into his memories.

He gave me a choice: end the love affair immediately, of finish out his time of freedom together. I chose. We were inseparable until I drove him to his return flight, one year later.

And then, the most amazing news arrived. I was with child. My Taro's child.

As fate would have it, our child was born a boy. Taro's first-born son, the son born of freedom, the son that would never sit in his rightful place within the family dynasty: the rose amongst thorns.

My son grew up like many young boys today, without a father. Our son had been denied his birthright, his father's love, and financial support.

Thirty years later this beautiful boy has grown into a successful young man. His success, his life, his happiness were all a result of the freedoms that are the birthright of being born an American. His father, though a billionaire, continues to live out his life imprisoned within the confines of his birthright; arranged marriages that ended in divorce, a false heir - his second son - that lives in rebellion against his father who never again found love after that final kiss goodbye at the airport.

The Most Amazing Thing: is to be born an American, nothing equals freedom. 


*Beauty Shop Buzz would like to thank MORE magazine for featuring our story in an up and coming issue, to be announced.























WE HAVE MOVED

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From the tropical laid-back breezes of the south-eastern US, to the frigid pulsating city life of the central-eastern US: Beauty Shop Buzz has moved, and is excited to capture the essence of a metropolitan
region that sets the trends for much of the country.







Hair and skin take on very different challenges when the temperature plummets. The pores of the skin and scalp, contract; therefore not letting Vitamin D from the sunshine in, nor the natural lubricating oils produced by the body out.

Skin, scalp, and hair become dry and lifeless. But don't book your flight heading south just yet! Here at Beauty Shop Buzz, we will bring you a multitude of remedies and comforts to weather the natural cycle of a climate accompanying most of the US.

Since our readers range from a vast span of the globe, we would welcome comments and tips from ALL!
 But for today, this first week of the new year, we would like to solicit your regime for: KEEPING WARM!